There is a point in life where, no matter how hard you try to hold on, you just HAVE TO let go.
Let go of grudges, past experiences, old victories, hurt, anxiety…ANYTHING that is slowing down the progression of you becoming a better and MORE productive YOU!
I have often found the hardest thing to let go of is people. We attach to others so easily because the journey of life can be so lonely. It’s true! The journey toward betterment becomes a lonely walk and we, as creatures of motivation, seek to have companionship along the way.
That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with companionship…the problem is when we become too fixated on the camaraderie of temporary relationships, hoping they remain a permanent presence in our lives.
Those you have to beg to stay have outlived their season in your life. This is how we know:
1 John 2:19 (KJV) They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.
Here are a few tips:
1. They left.
Not everyone is meant to be a permanent fixture in the structure of our lives. So, when others leave, it means something. Permanent-minded people don’t operate in temporary frames of mind…so, hurt feelings, sicknesses, stresses, and relationship woes won’t create isolation in their relationships. These individuals will continue to be available for you in your relationships! Those that leave, though, have taken it upon themselves to sever the connection that bonded you together. It’s their choice! So, let them go!
2. They weren’t really as invested as you first perceived.
Those who have severed a connection with you could care less about your well-being. People who were once close to you, and who have purposely AND purposefully executed the covenant relationship you shared, aren’t as invested in you as you may have been in them. If they had been invested in you, then they wouldn’t have left! You’re worth the investment! If others choose not to reciprocate complete investment…LET THEM GO!
3. The proof is in their actions.
Because they chose to leave, you have to stop overlooking their actions. DON’T develop a plan of return for them! They made their choice. Ultimately, the verse above teaches us that if they left, God intends for you to let them go. Stop fighting for them to stay. Don’t exhaust any more energy, will, or fight. Their decision is evident in the way they treated you!
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
They made their choice. Let them go! Say goodbye. Wish them well. Pray for their safety in wherever they’re going! Sweep up after they leave. Wash the dishes…and go rest! No fighting! No arguing! No hard feelings!
Why? Because you understand that even though they did this…God allowed it…because He plans to send others who WILL be fully invested…and there needs to be room for them to come into your life.